I Love You I Hate You

When you begin any sort of project you need research on your side, after all "chance favors the prepared mind." My project for the next couple of months is of course the wedding and now that it is creeping up on me (May!) I am on the internet constantly - and I am totally cracked out and A-D-D!! =) I love reading the blogs on weddingbee.com and other wedding related sites but let me tell you it is definitely a love hate relationship! I love the moments when you feel that you are not alone in the struggles you are facing with planning "the day" but I also get really frustrated when certain brides go overboard and freak out about BMs, dresses, letterpress, etc. Give me a break! I guess we are all different and the things that concern me may never concern another bride and the things that concern them I never even realized were issues. For example, the newest (maybe it is centuries old who knows) heated debate is over having a wedding party and how stressful or how magical fuzzy feeling it is. My latest gasp moment was hearing that a classmate had 13 BMs!! "Well, I had honarary BMs in addition to my core ones." So how is that not ranking your girlfriends? Is that not being a little vain? And what about BMs who are "just not into you and your wedding?" On one hand the bride thinks "it is MY day hell or high water!" and on the other hand the BM may think "she has gone bridezilla and I hate this dress! I am good enough, smart enough, and gosh darnit people LOVE me! I deserve a special dress that sets me apart from the other BMs!" Gasp. Wasn't it tradition in Western countries that BMs 1. helped the bride 2. chased away the evil spirits 3. acted as her maids? So when did BMs go awry? Every time I read more about the things that "we" (cause i love you brides out there in your sanity and insanity) struggle with I have to step back and ask where did we miss the point? Are we or are we not getting married and starting a wonderful new life with someone we love, adore, cherish? Bridezillas and BMzillas beware, as in all traditional fairytales and modern comic book stories, good prevails over the monsters.